So…2 weeks into a 6 month deployment, and we are back into the work and school routine. Life is busy, as it is for most families, but when you are acting mam and dad, business woman, seamstress, housekeeper, physiotherapist, nurse and taxi driver it is hectic.
The support shown by friends and indeed customers linked to the forces over the last week has been awesome. Every single customer I spoke to in Tin Trousers this week asked where my husband was and when he is due to return, each and every one of them understood and gave support and understanding. For this I am very thankful.
This is in stark contrast to the sympathetic glances and ‘helpful civvy comments’ that have begun to take up ever more of my precious time.
Examples of the type of comment I have heard every day over the last few weeks:
“I couldn’t survive a deployment with my husband away for 6 months…I don't know how you do it!”
“I know how you feel, my husband was away for 2 nights last month for work.”
“You know what they say about sailors…”
“Well, you knew what he did when you married him.”
“6 months. That’s a long time. I don’t know if I could do that.”
“You’re so strong. I don’t know how you cope.”
Please keep comments like these to yourself, it is cringeworthy, embarrassing and makes for a very uncomfortable few minutes! (You don't really want to hear what we want to say/do when you say things like this to a navy wife. It certainly wouldn't be polite, and frankly causes more heartache than you could possibly contemplate.)